Adjourning Stage

                                                    
                                                      Adjourning Stage of Team Development

                                                                   

              

            Bruce Wayne Tuckman came up with five stages of team development, forming, storming, norming, performing, and adjourning (Abudi 2010). The final stage, adjourning is the celebration of the completion of the task of a group. This is when the group says goodbye and comes together to rejoice and think back on all the times they shared together. In my sorority, we had a picnic at the end of each school year. We would all come together one final time before graduation and say goodbye to our graduating sisters. The graduating sisters would will down their sorority mementos such as letters, banners, different articles of clothing both with letters or just clothes they think will look cute or be sentimental to a new member or rising senior in the sorority. The remaining sisters give the seniors their cords and a senior gift which varies each year. I really cherish this event because it is a time of celebration and recollection of all the events that occurred throughout our time of being sisters in the sorority. 

        For me, the hardest groups to say good-bye to are the ones who I learn to grow and learn with not only with completing the task at hand but also on a social and personal level. People with who I have learned to trust and share sensitive topics and go through challenging times are always the hardest goodbyes for me because the experiences that I had with them helped me grow as a person and help me see different points of view.

  Attending school online is a first for me. It is sometimes hard for me to form and open up to others on the same intimate level as I do with people I meet in person. If I am being honest I am not sure how the adjourning process for this program will go because it is a new type of relationship and bond for me. This being said I appreciate all the growth, learning, and support I have had with my colleagues and professors. I have had my eyes open to new points of view, broad knowledge on the field of early childhood education, and a newfound direction of where I want to go in my career in this field. I would not be where I am today without this program and I am so grateful for all the bright minds and passionate professionals I am able to work with here at Walden University. However, the adjourning process turns out to be I'm sure it will be a sentimental and heartwarming celebration.

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Abudi G. 2010. The Five Stages of Team Development: A Case Study. https://www.projectsmart.co.uk/the-five-stages-of-team-development-a-case-study.php

Strategies for Resolving Conflicts

                                                                 Personal Strategies for Resolving

                                                                                      Conflicts                                                                        

                   

https://www.oas.org/ext/en/development/teacher-education-resources/Lesson-Plans/Details/ArtMID/2125/ArticleID/1507/Resolving-Conflicts

        Like the majority of my friends and a few close family members, I am not a fan of confrontation. I struggle with not letting my emotions get in the way of communicating with others during heated discussions. The most common strategy that I use is to excuse myself from the situation and take time to breathe and gather my thoughts. I prefer to write my emotions and conversations out on paper or over a mobile device before reaching out to the person I am in a conflict with. I like to read my thoughts and words before saying them out loud in front of a person because only I know what I am truly feeling and how I want to present my thoughts to others. I usually initiate with a text or any kind of non-verbal means of communication to arrange a time to meet face to face in a location where we both feel comfortable and not in a crowded space with others around. 

    I also recently began using a component of the nonviolent communication model, which is the I feel statements when trying to tell my point of view of the situation in which we are in conflict. When I start off with using when I feel this..., I begin to claim my own, thoughts, views, and perceptions, instead of putting my views in their mouths. This also opens up the door and allows them to express their view of the situation. Once we both see each other's own perspectives laid out in front of us with a clearer view we can begin to discuss in a more rational and effective way to resolve the issue.

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The Center For Nonviolent Communications. 2020. NVC Instruction Self-Guide. https://www.cnvc.org/online-learning/nvc-instruction-guide/nvc-instruction-guide

Self Reflection of My Communication Style

                                                        Personal Communication Style Reflection

            Communication Anxiety Inventory

                                                    https://www.everydayhealth.com/anxiety/anxiety-and-depression.aspx

            I have been diagnosed and prescribed medication for an anxiety disorder. I have battled with social and generalized anxiety for a very long time. This affects the way I see myself, second-guess my decisions, and deludes my perceptions of how others view and see me.  I was not surprised by my own personal results of this test. I scored a 71 and wound up with an elevated level of communication anxiety. I asked my partner to take the test and was surprised to see that his score for me was lower and he perceives me to be more confident in myself than I believe I am. This raised my confidence level and allows me to see myself as an effective communicator. Knowing this will allow me in the future to be more confident in my words and to keep reminding myself that I am intelligent and I do have the right and the motivation to speak up for myself and what I believe is important.

            

            Verbal Aggressiveness Scale

        

https://www.medpagetoday.com/publichealthpolicy/generalprofessionalissues/73610

                        I am a strong believer in the saying "words hurt." Although words may not cause direct physical pain it causes internal pain, self-doubt, self-depreciation, and in some instances self-harm. I began my journey working with young children in the hopes to teach kindness and empathy at a young age to make the world and society a more loving place. This being said I need to follow my own words and teachings as well. In this course, we have discussed the importance of not acting on or communicating with strong emotions. This is something that I am working very hard to overcome. My trigger words and various insecurities have played a huge impact on how I react to confrontational conversations. To teach and move up in my professional journey, I need to learn to let go and not attached all my built-up aggression and fear behind certain words or phrases.

            Listening Style

https://mitzvahchallenge.wordpress.com/2018/02/28/a-listening-ear/

                    My results on my listening style surprised me I never thought of myself as being action-oriented I mainly thought of myself as people-oriented.  I received a score of 27 with all of my results. I thought I would be more empathetic and act on others' emotions instead of being an active problem solver. I believe these skills will help me thrive in making helpful and efficient business decisions however in my personal life and in my classroom environment I want to work on being more people-oriented and listening to others' feelings, hopes, and dreams without trying to plan a solution in a rushed manner.